Getting in Your Own Way
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Getting in our own way is another term for self-sabotage. Ultimately, we are the decision makers in our lives, whether it appears that way, or is hidden in metaphors and symbols.
In sharing with others how self-sabotage can appear, I am often asked why we continue to do it and where it comes from.
Self-sabotage is a protective behavior that we use when our internal mechanism feels fearful. Everything we do is on some level, a re-enactment of our early childhood experiences, many of which we have imprinted as messages that create fear within us.
Sabotage is at work when a poor decision we have made, interferes with what is best for us. What we should be doing daily is living our lives authentically and fully. Robbing ourselves of that experience keeps us small and feeling powerless. And at some point, we will become angry, and that anger will hold us back too.
Maybe this is you: your reports are always late, riddled with the same type of mistakes over and over, eliciting from your boss a stern conversation. Or you cut corners and hope that no one notices (except that you lose respect for yourself.) Sometimes you play the helpless victim, when in fact you could be making other choices and taking back your power. Or, things are not your fault and you blame others.
Where does it come from?